It is essential to express your truth even at the risk of standing out.
Express your thoughts! “In the past, you have tried to maintain peace by staying quiet or swallowing your words. Have faith that open and honest communication can bring resolution to the situation.” This is a time to ask questions if you require information. Perhaps someone has helped to communicate a moment of clarity. Be open to others’ views, regardless of their position. Let your response and emotions flow without blocking them–recognize how you feel and what you have heard. Say what you need to say.
However, try your best not to come across as harsh or uncaring. Take a beat. Nine thoughts to a single word. Your ideas are valid and so are the feelings and thoughts of those to whom you communicate.
The color teal is used in this image and represents the throat chakra which governs listening and speaking. It is the gateway to higher spiritual realms. This makes sense if I relate it to chanting Nam Myoho Renge Kyo. When this chakra isn’t blocked you have a better chance of not being misunderstood or miscommunicate your position. “This is where you are able to express yourself as a spiritual being.” Communicating from the heart and listening with intent to understand. You are also able to ask for what you want and need from others.
Your relationships are based on true communication and true intimacy.
This week has been a difficult one. Despite all the external chaos, I was suffering my usual health bouts. I couldn’t think. I was moving with little recollection or direction. I was a total automaton. Looked like a real life boy, but by late morning I was just a wishful puppet.
The one thing I’m proud of is the support I offered someone else. It’s easy to cut your feelings off, say you don’t care and shut down your computer, but people need us. If just for a moment. People need us to listen, to know they are valued in the life they feel they cannot control. If you’ve listened to someone lately, THANK YOU.
Listening can change lives and save lives. I don’t know what tomorrow brings, but I do know I can forgive myself for not being perfect. I may want to be unscathed, but I am scarred and marked, so I might as well embrace the whipping wind.
It’s far easier to stand against the wind with someone else.
Dialogue is the cornerstone of creating community. While our communities contend with the antagonisms of today, it is up to each member of the community to take it upon themselves to make an effort. Still, it can be exhausting to be one of few people exerting themselves in this way. In this event, take consideration of the resistance you encounter. If you employ all tactics of peaceful and creative discussion then you may simply have to make your exit.
Too often this is where we get stuck in the conversation about having meaningful dialogue. It’s not about relinquishing proper information, but knowing when the listener is not able to gain anything from the exchange. This is probably also when you may begin to feel a bit depleted. Once you begin to feel energy being drained from your efforts it’s wise to withdraw. The other person is worth the time but it is crucial we know when to cut it off.
Awareness of a persons capacity to receive information is just as important as having the information they need. This knowledge can save you from over exerting yourself in the thankless position as martyr. I’m sure you will gain more respect from knowing when and where to draw the line than engaging in an anger fueled “I’m right!” fest.